HAVE YOU EVER TRIED DATING SOMEONE THE RIGHT WAY? I MEAN THE GOD WAY.

5 Common Relationship Problems in Christian Dating.

I wrote the first article, but still had some things on my mind. I needed to write about some things particular to Christians, so here goes!

(1)Being unequally yoked: Just because they go to church, it doesn’t mean that they’re saved or mentally renewed. I remember an analogy that is so appropriate to this point: Joyce Meyer stated that “You can sit in a garage all day, but that doesn’t make you car.” The same is true of people who go to church. Don’t inappropriately invest time and emotions into a person just because he or she attends church. Attendance does not equate to good character, faithfulness, godliness, etc.
Look for the fruit of the Spirit, the fruit that lends itself to a great relationship (2 Corinthians 6:14-18).

(2)Limiting your dating pool to those in church: Adding to Point #1, it’s not good to limit God, and it is not good to limit yourself. For a Christian, I believe it’s important to date a person who firstly has Christ in their heart, and secondly one who is devoted to godly works and development in church. If you don’t know a single person in your proximity that meets these criteria, don’t be worried! I believe that God is always at work behind the scenes. You never know who you’re going to meet in the meet in the future, and where you’ll meet him/her.  He’s still leading you through certain things to develop character and godly ways of thinking. Simultaneously, He’s crafting your potential mate.
God knows I don’t want an average Joe as a mate, and I would expect him…whoever he will be…to have the same desire. I made the decision to put my mind to rest, and you should put your mind at ease too! Don’t settle for near; wait for what is best (Jeremiah 29:11).

 

(3)Being in the “spirit” at all times…and the wrong times: I do not know the origin of this quote, but it should be imprinted into the minds of many people if you ask me! “Don’t be so heavenly minded that your no earthly good” and vice versa are great principles to live by. It jerks my nerves when I hear of folks so high on a spiritual cloud. I just want to slap them with a reminder that says “You’re made of flesh too!”
Sadly, a recent dating experience was not a good one. The person was so “spiritual” when it came to directing me, yet he lacked a spiritual conviction for similar things he condemned me for. When I really needed spiritual guidance, I couldn’t find it with him because he proved to be unstable in him emotions and “spirit”.I can’t trust a person with myself if I feel I’m going to be condemned for anything and everything. I don’t want to be condemned by another person for not remembering to pray over every meal, or other lawful means. And trust me this is just one of many examples that should not be experienced by a person dating. For these reasons, I’ve learned to seek God for myself and ask Him to show me a man’s heart and not just his words. God said He’ll lead me into all truth (John 16:13), so I take Him at His word and He does so! Try Him for yourself!

(4)Using the bible to defend his/her questionable behavior/decisions: It is so important to know God and His word for yourself! The knowledge will help you avoid the theory or reasoning of others. You’ll be able to compare a person’s life and thinking to the Word, and what doesn’t align, you must decline!
There are many people who justify wild nights and crazy lifestyles by partially quoting the bible. If you take what a person says at face value, it’s easy to assume he/she has a relationship with God or a sense of godliness. But if you know the Word, you’ll be able to date others and avoid becoming emotionally attached to a person without the same values and character. You have to know what you’re getting into at all times, and the start of this awareness is the Word (Proverbs 9:10).

 

(5)No courtship: So many people are worried about getting married! And they have the nerve to have a deadline to do so too! Yes it is better to marry than to burn, but don’t let your hormones lead you to alter. Endure and explore the process of dating, as God wills for you. Everyone is not ready for marriage, and everyone is not marriage material when you meet them. So let God lead you into the right relationship, and take the time necessary to build a lasting, firm relationship with him/her. Friendship is so important, and it’s a vital part of courtship. “Slow your roll” as my mother says, and go on a date J.

Sourced from Miss Aleck and written by Twinker Davis; loves God, collard greens with cornbread, and her hometown Detroit.  Current endeavors include writing, www.lovelytwinker.com, and the promotion of practical, applicable advice. Want to know more? Follow her at Twitter© www.twitter.com/LovelyTwinker and visithttp://twinkerdavis.blogspot.com/ !